Becoming selfish is the best thing I ever did

 Becoming selfish is the best thing I ever did

1. The speaker grew up with a very loving mother who was an extreme people pleaser, always helping others even when she didn't have the means to do so. This influenced the speaker to become a people pleaser as well, always helping others but feeling drained, used, and unloved in the process.

2. The speaker realized that she was doing this for herself and creating this reality, so she decided to become more selfish in a positive way. 

3. Some of the things the speaker did to become more selfish included: stopping arguments with people unwilling to listen, prioritizing her own needs first, not always being available to help others, realizing she can't save everyone, being okay with people misunderstanding her, stopping trying to change people, and not needing validation from others.

4. The speaker started talking to herself, going on dates alone, affirming her worth, embracing her feminine energy, and only adding great people who add value to her life.

5. The speaker no longer needs anyone's permission to do what she thinks is best for herself, as she knows herself well enough and is independent in supporting herself.